values in life

In my family, everyone is instilled with values that shape us now. They are :

1. Kalau makan jangan ada bunyi. Maksudnye, makan tutup mulut. Atau pun kalau nak minum sup, jangan hirup kat sudu. Sebab bunyi tu dikatakan tak senang untuk didengar. Nak minum sup, masukkan satu sudu terus dalam mulut.
2. Jangan hayunkan tangan ketika jalan.
3. Perkataan-perkataan yang tak sopan tak boleh disebut di rumah. Seperti bodoh, bongok dan sebagainye.
4. Maksimum waktu menonton tv tidak lebih dari sejam sehari. Sebab tu adik beradik kami tak de yang pakai spectacle :D
5. Jalan kaki kena lurus. Dalam erti kata laen, jangan jalan kenkang (macam nie ke ejaan dia?).
6. Kalau kita makan sesuatu dan ada orang nampak, MESTI offer orang tu. Sebab tu saya rasa agak pelik orang makan dalam 1 kumpulan tapi tak offer orang laen. Tak semestinye saya nak apa yang dia makan cuma rasa pelik bila tak dioffer.
7. Jangan cakap sesuatu yang tak bermakna. Macam cakap sesuatu yang menampakkan ketidakbijaksanaan anda. Sebab tu saya lebih suka diam dari bercakap dengan orang yang kurang kenal. I still remember this one incident when I was standard 5 and there was an open house at my house. I was doing something in the kitchen and my cousin helped me. I was trying to make a conversation with her and said, “eyh, awal kak n*r*l sampai”. And guess what? Saya ditegur sebab cakap mende tak sepatutnye. They said when I asked that question like I don’t want her to arrive early. Jujur la kan, saya tak de maksud macam tu langsung. I just accept the fact that I don’t have social skill.
8. Jangan pijak katil atau tilam. Kecuali kalau anda yakin kaki anda bersih.
9. Kalau makan, jangan gaulkan nasi dengan lauk. You know right what I mean? Unless it’s meant to be eaten that way. Like nasi kerabu, u have to mix everything but still, we are not advisable to do that.
10. Prioritise your family first. All the time. I have a story to go with this point. Ok. masa saya masih bersekolah, setiap cuti akhir tahun kami sedara mara akan tukar-tukar anak. Kalau tak pun, semua cousin saya akan tinggal kat kampung. Ada sekali nie saya dan abang ikut kakak sulung mama. Melancong 1 malaysia kalau tak silap. Pada 1 masa nie ada ada 1 je gula-gula lebih dan saya offer aunty saya tu. Dan abang pun kata dia nak gula-gula tu. Saya kata kat abang jangan, biar saya bagi aunty saya. Di situ la aunty saya tegur, sentiasa lebihkan family terdekat dan kawan datang selepas tu. Pertama sekali mama ayah, then adik beradik, kemudian pakcik makcik dan seterusnye sedara mara dan akhir sekali yang laen-laen. I still remember the exact way she said it.
11. Don’t laugh so hard. It’s not nice to see girls laugh out loud. Tapi yang nie, dah kurang sikit diamalkan. I used not to laugh much but since I got here at ktj and met syamim, I change. Syamim loves to laugh so hard and to admit, I don’t really like it at first. I mean to see girls laugh so hard. But now, I love it :D I love to laugh :D tapi kat rumah tak berape boleh. Nanti kene tegur.
12. Yang paling penting, nilai kasih saying antara kami :D we always love the young ones. For example, if I only have RM10 and my younger sister need RM10, I’ll give her. That’s what my brother would do too. Anything for the family. Not just money, but other things too. Owh, I have a better example. My cousin, kak A come from a rich family. So, she has lots of nice stuff right. my second cousin, kak B come from not a really rich family. So, she always like stuff that my kak A has. Macam-macam sangat. Macam gelang yang mak dia belikan kat overseas, baju kurung yang cantik-cantik dan accessories yang cantik-cantik. Kak B selalu mintak dari kak A dan kak A bagi je walaupun dia sangat sayang mende2 tu. Dia kata, kak B tu dah macam adik dia sendiri. Kalau adik2 minta apa2, kita kene bagi. I learn a lot from kak A. Some of values here were taught by her.
13. If elderly gives you advice and you don’t agree with them, don’t argue. Just keep it to yourself.

These values have been instilled in us since we were young but my parents have stop doing it since we left school. However, since they are already old and after all the hard work raising 4 children, my youngest sister dont really get it all. But then, she is born as a good girl. We, the bother and sisters help my parents helping her getting it.

However, with all the friends influences, some of us don’t really practice all the values all the time. i don’t really practice all the values though. It may seems our life is boring as everything is being control. The truth is, we are very happy. The values just make us more polite I guess. and somehow make us a more loving person.

so.. to be continued :)